17 Totally Normal Things to Experience in Your Relationship Right Now
The good, the bad, and the irritating. By Anna Borges It doesn’t take a scientist to know that the coronavirus crisis is rife with stressors and challenges that would shake up even the healthiest of...
View ArticleGay Couples Can Teach Straight People a Thing or Two About Arguing
Same-sex couples, on average, resolve conflict more constructively than different-sex couples, and with less animosity, studies have shown. By Christina Caron Elana Arian and Julia Cadrain, a same-sex...
View ArticleThe 8-Question Sex Check-In To Keep Pleasure In Tact Even During Times of Crisis
By Mary Grace Garis One inarguable truth about this year to date is that it’s sparked quite a bit of societal shake-up, and one effect of that shake-up is probably a shift one way or the other for your...
View ArticleFree BDSM porn film from Erika Lust will teach you so much about fetish and kink
As well as being realllllly hot, it tackles some of the most common miscoceptions about BDSM. By Paisley Gilmour Indie porn director Erika Lust is best known for her ethical production processes and...
View ArticleHow Sexual Context Can Take Sex From Good To Great
By Alicia Muñoz, LPC If you stumbled on a magic relationship lantern and a sex genie popped out and said, “I will grant you one wish,” what would you ask for? There’s a good chance many of us would...
View Article9 Ways Non-Monogamous People Are Dealing With the Pandemic
Communication, communication, communication. By Gabrielle Smith So. This pandemic thing sucks. We’ve been asked to sacrifice a lot for our personal safety and the collective good, like shrinking down...
View ArticleAftercare Conversations Might Be the BDSM Practice You Need to Try
It’s a game changer (even if you’re vanilla). By Patia Braithwaite If you’re familiar with BDSM, you probably know that communication is a major through line. There’s a reason for this. As SELF...
View ArticleHow BDSM Frameworks Can Teach You to Talk About Sex
by Davey Davis While they might look the same to the untrained eye, BDSM is the opposite of Fight Club: The first rule of BDSM is that you talk about BDSM. A lot. One of the many things that annoys me...
View ArticleHow to Ask for What You Want Sexually
Doing so may improve your relationship. By Samantha Vincenty Developing good communication is important in relationships, and that’s just as true when it comes to sex—which is why knowing how to...
View ArticleHow to broach the topic of sex toys with your partner
By Ashley Laderer To introduce sex toys into your relationship gently, be sure to avoid complaining or critiquing your partner’s sexual performance. You should also be direct with your desires, but...
View ArticleHow to Be a Better Lover
— In and Out of the Bedroom by Gabrielle Kassel Maybe your current boo told you to up your game (ouch). Maybe you’ve always harbored sneaking suspicions that you’re subpar in the sack. Or maybe you...
View ArticleWhat do you do when your partner has a kink and you don’t?
By Edaein O’Connell We all have fetishes in some form. Though you may not like to admit it, those chips you dip into your ice cream every Friday night could fall into that category. They are the quirks...
View ArticleHow to Talk to Your Partner About What You Want in Bed
— Because Communication Is Sexy by Olivia Luppino If you want to have great sex, you’re going to have to speak up. Every person and every sexual relationship is different, so it’s important to be open...
View ArticleThe Real Scoop on Why Couples Stop Having Sex
The truth is, few couples come into therapy for the first meeting and tell me they are not having sex. By Alex Momtchiloff, MFT Yes, it happens, but generally they start out with something else. “We’ve...
View ArticleThese 3 Issues Can End Relationships
— But Here’s How To Overcome Them By Jason Wachob Every relationship has its nuances, and we should give up the notion that a “successful” partnership has a specific set of criteria. “It’s very...
View ArticleCouples therapists share 6 relationship red flags you shouldn’t ignore
By Ashley Laderer Red flags in a relationship include excessive jealousy and frequent lying. You should also be wary of a partner that frequently criticizes you or puts you down. Another major red flag...
View ArticleHow to Communicate New Sexual Boundaries to Your Partner
By Gigi Engle Sex and our preferences for certain kinds of sex acts change all the time. This is a fact of life for many people. What worked for you for years may suddenly not be your thing anymore—and...
View ArticleHow to get consent for sex
(and no, it doesn’t have to spoil the mood) By Bianca Fileborn and Sophie Hindes New South Wales and Victoria are set to introduce a suite of reforms to sexual offences legislation which set a new...
View ArticleHow To Discuss Your Deepest, Darkest Desires and Kinks With Your Partner
Discussing our innermost fantasies can be scary. But they can also help unlock a whole new world of pleasure. By Shamani Joshi It’s easy to rant about some of the more mundane parts of life – hectic...
View Article5 Powerful Changes To Make To Your Sex Life In 2022
By Kelly Gonsalves It’s 2022, and conversations around sexuality have evolved tremendously. We know more than ever before about the science of orgasms, fostering desire, and all the different ways we...
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